Getting to Know You

Most of the thoughts that cause distress are not new; they're all recycled. And they boil down to "I want to be appreciated/loved/approved." "We're trapped in these thoughts," says Katie. Freedom and happiness lie in opening up your judgments.

Let's say you feel your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't paying enough attention to you. It causes you deep anxiety because you feel s/he doesn't love you. You may even worry that you will be partnerless soon.
"The mind's job is to validate what it thinks, " says Katie, so it looks for proof that s/he doesn't love you. The problem is, there are not a lot of options in fear. You need clarity to know what is really going on.